Pishimar Peper Chechki

Dec 5 2007  | Views 730 |  Comments  (36)
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  Julia Dutta posted 8 mnths ago

Bharatborn,
Very encouraging to hear this from you. Lovely. Yes, times are changing and it is for all of us to ensure taht the old systems are not insisted upon those who are widowed. Thanks for reading.
Julia



  Julia Dutta posted 8 mnths ago

Hi Keshu,
Yes, speaking about widows of Bengal it is apparent from Aditi's response that widows still exist in many parts of Bengal and across many sections of people. But yes, there is a change happening. None of the widows in my family have followed the norms. But yet, it was not an easy decision for them. Thanks for reading Keshu.
Julia



  Julia Dutta posted 8 mnths ago

Swarajya,
Thanks for reading the recipe out to your wife Well I thought I would make my point as well while telling the recipe too. 

Nargis,
Lauki will not do. Raw papaya only. Lauki is too soft. Thanks for reading Nargis and also for your appreciation of my Bengali poem
Julia



  Julia Dutta posted 8 mnths ago

Indu,
Please invite me to your lunch when you make Pishima's Peper Chechki
Julia



  Julia Dutta posted 8 mnths ago

Meera,
Do try the recipe...it is fantastic. And Usha, I too think the old mashima/pishima is cute.Thanks for visiting,
Julia



  Aditi Ray posted 8 mnths ago

Julia,

Your recipe was just a part of a mosaic of the bigger canvas of the Bengali widow, much of which is still the same in our villages and small towns. Why to go so far, when my father in law died suddenly of heart attack, my mother in law steadfastly refused to eat any non vegetarian food , it broke our heart,  for she could not eat a single lunch or dinner without fish. She frequently also said that for her life was over when her husband breathed his last.... very similar to the poem you cited... 

Aditi



  bharatborn posted 8 mnths ago

This was beautifully written and thoughtprovoking. In our families, my grandmothers were widows but they were never treated differently as regs. food dress or anything else. they didn't wear the bindi and avoided glass bangles. that's all.
Times are changing. Now they don't give up even that and the younger ones get married again.



  B S Keshav posted 8 mnths ago

Hi Julia,

That was a tad depressing. (I got the Bong part too) I hope things have improved for the widows today. Brought to mind a Grand-Aunt of mine. She too was widowed very soon after marriage. All I remember of her was that she would assist at all the child-births and take care of the kids till they grew up and promptly forgot her. 
Why do we do this? 
Absolutely inhuman...it is as if she had killed her husband. Makes Sati seem like a sensible solution. Damn!

Keshav



  Nargis Natarajan posted 8 mnths ago

Hi Julia..loved the poem. And also the way you have paid a fitting tribute not only to the unique cuisine of a widow but to her humble plight as well. Will try out this recipe today......... but don't have papaya at home, will lauki do? 



  swarajya posted 8 mnths ago

The photograph of the grand old lady is impressive.The description of the life of a widow  is very touching.The recipe was read out to my wife.I may like to taste the item.The appeal of Raja Ram Mohan Roy  is to bring awareness of the people towards paying respect to widows.Time is changing fast.I have seen many widows in colourful sarees , wearing ornaments  and looking no different from a married lady.
I admire your skillful writing.





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