Pishimar Peper Chechki

Dec 5 2007  | Views 605 |  Comments  (36)
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  Julia Dutta posted 7 mnths ago

Hi Priya,
I know! Only a few in Tamil society could escape that plight. I take heart in a few like the story of Ambi, a book I read recently, of a widow who educated herself after her husband's death to become a teach. There are exceptions, but few and far between. Thanks for visiting.
Julia



  Priyamvada K posted 7 mnths ago

Hmmm...Didn't know about the forced vegetarianism. What deprivations widows went through - my great-grandma, widowed at 16, had to wear a borderless dirty-brown saree, shave her head, and was allowed 1 meal a day....At 16 - that is ridiculous! Thank God times have changed.

Will try out this recipe when I see a raw papaya - in honor of the countless widows who gave up their sense of self.

Priya.



  Julia Dutta posted 7 mnths ago

Dagny,
Oh what a brilliant idea! I too have a problem with garlic use sometimes. This is such a great alternative. Thank you paql!
Julia



  DagnySharma posted 7 mnths ago

Julia,

It is indeed the torture of the most inhman kind, to attack the sustenance which holds body and soul together. 

I have found an alternative to garlic. heat some oil in a pan. When the oil gets hot, add a pinch of hing.. and then grated ginger. The ginger will try sticking to the walls of the pan.. but keep stirring and scraping it off till the ginger turns brown. After that add the other masalas as you normally would. The dish will have a flavour of garlic... without the garlic...!!!

Cheers,

Dagny



  Julia Dutta posted 7 mnths ago

Reety Roy,
Welcome to Xebecbooks! There always is sopcial pressures but it is important to stick to your guns, at all cost. Glad you liked the post.
Julia



  Reeti Roy posted 7 mnths ago

That was a very beautiful piece of work indeed.You've made some extremely significant points about widows.My granddad also insisted that nanima(my maternal grandmother)not give up meat.People "talked" about it (you know how they try and force their beliefs on you..sigh...when will the world change?),but we insisted that she do as she pleases and not listen to what random people had to say.

I love peper chechki too

And tomator chutney!



  Julia Dutta posted 7 mnths ago

Anjala,
Thanks for visiting. Yes, I too have that book by Chittrita Banerjee, The Hour Of The Goddess but I found the book very good as an anthropological/sociological book than for really the Bengali Recipe book I had hoped to have bought. Nevertheless, a good one.
Julia



  anjala posted 7 mnths ago

Very feelingly written, julia. A double cruelty indeed, one dealt by fate and the second by society. What equisite torture to be deprived like this for no fault of hers. It just compounds her misery- which she has to bravely and stoicly bear. The recipe is interesting. Sometimes the kids in the family spurn the regular food and seek out the Pishima-fare instead. I have a book by Chithrita Banerjee which is replete with interesting tidbits on Bengali cuisine. The photo is awesome - beautifully composed.



  Julia Dutta posted 7 mnths ago

Simmu,

Things are changing. But I did showcase a painful situation. Thanks for reading.

And Mr Datta,

As you know, if we conversed enough on this Sylheti thing, we would son find out that you and me are related in some distant way!! As all Sylhetis are.
Julia



  simmu posted 7 mnths ago

through ur blog i could feel the pain .........its really difficult to lead such a life.i wish our culture was more liberal to women





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